31 Day Blog Challenge: Day 14

Good morning, darlings! I hope your Friday meets you with excitement and a hope filled weekend. I’ll be working most of the weekend :/ But I may not have to work weekends for long because I just got a new job!

This new job seems like a dream come true. Once I have my foot solidly in the door I will give an update. For now, just know that I will no longer be working in retail/be a cashier.

Today’s prompt for the 31 Day Blog Challenge is: What’s on your iPod?

I have only three things in my iTunes on my iPhone right now.

1. Sins are Stones by John Mark McMillan

2. “Wilde Woman” full album by Lucius.

source: Consequence of Sound

3. #GETITRIGHT by Miley Cyrus

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Miley is a queen. But, use your discretion 😉

So what I’d like to know is this:

If you had to delete all our iTunes to be able to update your phone, which  three songs would you keep?


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Check out these other amazing ladies that are blogging through the 31 Day Blog Challenge.

Madi – Her Wandering Path
Chelsea – Grace Marked Heart

 

 

 

 

 

 

Charlotte – Inside Charlotte’s Mind
Suzanna – One Hoolie Mama

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Brittani – Bringing Life to Truth

If you want to be part of the link up for the 31 Day Blog Challenge just share your link in the comments below. It doesn’t matter if you’ve just started or if you’re ahead of me. It would be so great to add some more bloggers to the link up. I love reading everyone’s answers to these great challenge questions.

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31 Day Blog Challenge: Day 13

You may have noticed that I skipped day 12. I did have a post written and I was about to publish it when I accidentally went “back” and the post didn’t autosave.

I was really excited to have a good quality post with a little more seriousness to it. But it took me quite a long time to figure out how to articulate it in such a way that made me feel good about it. I don’t think I’ll be pleased with a rewrite and I’m not even sure if I would be able to remember how to put it back. So, I’m skipping day 12 and moving on. I don’t want to think about it anymore and I don’t want to delay any more posts on this challenge.

While I love doing this challenge, I’m really excited to get on with posts of my choosing. And also getting started on writing about some of the topics that were requested on my “About” page.

Day 13’s prompt is a question that a lot of people seem to have the same answer for.

Do you have regrets?

I feel like there are two answers.

“Yes, I regret that one horrible thing that is embarrassing or that relationship that really hurt me because that guy/girl was soooo stupid and your loss!”

or

“No, I never regret anything because everything happens for a reason and I am the person I am now because of everything I’ve done so I don’t regret anything that got me here.”

yawn.

Just because you regret something doesn’t mean you wish you were a different person. And yes, there are lots of things I wouldn’t want to change about my life. If things had been done differently in the past, life might not be the way it is right now in some ways.

I would never want to be without my husband, and it’s sad to think about what life would be like if I hadn’t met him. But let’s be real here. If you look back on your life and realize that you did something or let something else happen that caused you to be miserable for too long, regret is a pretty reasonable feeling.

I regret staying in college as long as I did.

I came back to start my junior year after a horrrrrrrrible break up. I was such a mess and had convinced myself that I needed to proceed as normal. I didn’t take a break (yet) and I didn’t seek any help (yet).  I went back expecting to have this amazingly warm and welcoming community to walk alongside me and fix my problems. But the summer had let us drift apart as well as my focus on my then long distance relationship. I hadn’t spoken to any of my friends during the summer about any relationship problems, so when I got back for the fall semester and told people we had broken up they were all surprised because they hadn’t heard anything before about us having problems. So a lot of people didn’t think it was as big of a deal as it really was.

And because I had just lost the biggest thing in my life, I also lost myself. My goals changed because now I was single again. My plans didn’t involved following another person, and I hadn’t the slightest clue what I wanted to do. Besides sleep and take a break from homework.

I still pursued my major, even though I had no plans to continue on with it once I was done with school. I still worked a job, sometimes two, even though they were not fulfilling and also low paying. And I stayed at a school that didn’t really care a whole lot about how much as I was hurting as much as they did policing my poor attitude in class, lack of on-campus participation, dropping grades, and what on earth I was going to do with myself for the rest of my life. And let me tell you, it definitely wasn’t being a pastor’s wife or a children’s minister or a missionary. I wanted to do something secular but I had invested so much time and money into this place that it was, as I was told, “a waste and poor stewardship of the very clear calling God had placed on my life to be in full time ministry.” But not preaching, because you’re a woman. And certainly not a woman choosing to be childless for life, because don’t you remember the commandment about having children being a requirement?

Anyway, without sharing too many more stories that could be their own stories, I will just say that I was absolutely miserable for far too long and now that I’ve taken 4 year to finish only an Associate’s Degree because college was actually killing me, the money I spent STILL wasn’t worth it. And the time I spent was STILL wasted in a way.

The experience wasn’t worth it for me, looking back on it all now.
However, my experience is not everyone’s and sometimes sticking it out is totally worth it. EVEN if you don’t know what you want to do, finishing college is important if you think it will do more good for you in the long run than negative.

That’s not true for me right now.

I’ll probably never go back. And every time I say that, I feel a little more free. I wish I had quit earlier because life without that place has been heaps easier.

Easy isn’t my ultimate goal, but sometimes you need life to be easier for a while.

I regret not quitting college sooner. Because I was miserable and I didn’t need to be.

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31 Day Blog Challenge: Day 11

Good day to you all! I’m currently enjoying the last of my white chocolate almond mocha and sitting next to my husband as he plays some sort of game on his computer. I feel…good today. I feel in the right place at the right time. I woke up early and left with my husband at 7:30 this morning and went grocery shopping. Bright and early. If that’s not productivity at it’s best then I don’t know what is.

Now I’ve finally gotten through my morning “to read” list and I have managed to clear my mind enough to begin my post for you. I have a secret though, I’m not really excited about today’s challenge.

What was the last book you read?

I don’t like writing about the books I read because it really just makes me feel like I’m in school and doing a homework assignment. Ugh, annotated bibliographies and book reviews can suck it.

I really do not like school and do not consider myself to be a very good student. Since I’ve been out of school since May 2013, I’ve just recently begun to read for pleasure again. I think I stopped reading for pleasure right around the same time that I started college. Using my brain is hard sometimes when school makes me so tired.

The first book I read for myself was called The Desire Map. I tell you this because reading this book led to my most recent reading and self-exploration and just a whole mess of great things for my life.

I had heard of The Desire Map a long time ago on Pinterest and had just a vague idea about it. Then I got an invitation on Facebook to join a virtual book club covering the book. So I joined in not really knowing much about it. I ordered the book right away and started digging in. I was part of this virtual community that met over a video conference website and we did the reading assignments and chatted for 2 hours every week.

The book is really a lot to explain in just the one post. It seriously needs its own discussion for which I am not prepared to start at this point in time. But let me tell you, this book changed my life. Not only did it unlock the doors of self-love for me, but it also provided me with the friends I needed at the perfect time. The girls I met through the “book club” are all over the United States, and I’ve only gotten to meet one of them in person, but they are my kindred spirits. We talk almost daily and continue to have book club meetings. We read Daring Greatly by Brene Brown this summer and then started on Bittersweet by Shauna Niequist shortly after that.

So, the book I’m currently reading is Bittersweet but I’m not done with it so I’ll let you know later what I thought. For now, I think The Desire Map may have saved my life. If not, it at least saved my sanity.

I was daily beating myself up for choices I made in an attempt to protect my mental health. I was trapped in the land of “should” and wanted so much to be happy just do things because I WANTED to but had no idea how to just let go.

The Desire Map helped.546a3a408841c9cb610e34c8For the first time in years, I recognize the strength in me to have desire.
Desire is giving me life again.
And my book club girls are some the greatest people I could ask for the live it with.

Books really do bring people together.

When I met Haley from my book club while on my honeymoon
When I met Haley from my book club while on my honeymoon

 

I’m curious to know about a book that has changed your life? Are you involved in any book clubs? What is the most recent book you’ve read?

Stay classy,

xoxo Jess


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Check out these other amazing ladies that are blogging through the 31 Day Blog Challenge.

Madi – Her Wandering Path
Chelsea – Grace Marked Heart

 

 

 

 

 

 

Charlotte – Inside Charlotte’s Mind
Suzanna – One Hoolie Mama

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Brittani – Bringing Life to Truth

If you want to be part of the link up for the 31 Day Blog Challenge just share your link in the comments below. It doesn’t matter if you’ve just started or if you’re ahead of me. It would be so great to add some more bloggers to the link up. I love reading everyone’s answers to these great challenge questions.

31 Day Blog Challenge: Day 9

Let’s just ignore the fact that I didn’t post yesterday and waited until bedtime to post today. I’ll tell ya why…

I had two really good days! I was having fun and taking care of myself by eating good food, drinking lots of coffee, taking naps and spending some much needed FREE time with my husband. So blogging wasn’t at the forefront of my mind this weekend.

But now I find myself taking a soothing bubble bath with my eucalyptus and spearmint body wash and writing a challenge post on my phone. Isn’t it crazy that we can use technology (carefully) from the bathtub?

This stuff is a lifesaver

Now to the point. Today’s prompt is things on your bucket list. I’ve never been good at keeping a bucket list. There really aren’t a whole lot of things I just HAVE to do before I die. Really the most important thing to me was to become a wife and to find the very best friends I could. Awww 🙂 but really. And I have accomplished those. Being a wide and being a best friend to someone(s) is the greatest gift and gives my life meaning.

If we really want to get down to the brass tax though, I can think up some things that would just be the icing on the cake. A lot of them are already in my short term/long term goal list so they aren’t exactly bucket list items as they are things that I feel would make my life more full and enjoyable.

These are in no specific order:

  1. See the Minnesota Twins play
  2. Be my own boss
  3. Travel Europe for at least a summer, fully funded
  4. Own a home with a spare bedroom
  5. Renovate a tiny vintage trailer
  6. Buy a Volvo wagon
  7. Be debt free
  8. Visit every presidential monument and/or home
  9. Run into someone famous and invite them to lunch
  10. Attend a taping of SNL
  11. Meet Ellen Degeneres
  12. Make a really popular YouTube video
  13. Sing at Carnegie hall
  14. Visit the pyramids
  15. Stay in the Mediterranean for a summer
  16. Have really long hair
  17. See Katy Perry live in concert
  18. Own a cabin in the mountains
  19. Live in a foreign country for a year
  20. Be someone’s personal stylist
  21. Build a Tiny House
  22. Meet the entire cast of Gossip Girl
  23. Meet Lauren Conrad
  24. Own a small boutique gift shop or coffee shop
  25. Learn to make craft coffee drinks
  26. Have a bedding set of strictly Anthropologie items
  27. Have lunch with Amy Poehler
  28. Go to the Jimmy Fallon show
  29. Do a ‘USA or Bust’ roadtrip
  30. Learn to garden
  31. Write a children’s book with my husband
  32. Have more pets
  33. Have zero children
  34. Visit Harry Potter Wizarding World and also the real Hogwarts.
  35. See a Broadway musical…ON Broadway. duh.
  36. Do New Years at Rockefeller Center

And yes, anything having to do with Harry Potter and Gossip Girl are essential to my life.

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What are some of your bucket list items?


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Happy weekending, lovelies! Since many of you will probably have tomorrow (Sunday) off, I thought I would give you a list of some blogs to check out so that you’d have plenty of reading material to fill your day with.

I’ve also added a NEW BLOGGER to the link up.

Madi – Her Wandering Path
Chelsea – Grace Marked Heart

 

 

 

 

 

 

Charlotte – Inside Charlotte’s Mind
Suzanna – One Hoolie Mama

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Brittani – Bringing Life to Truth

If you want to be part of the link up for the 31 Day Blog Challenge just share your link in the comments below. It doesn’t matter if you’ve just started or if you’re ahead of me. I’d love to see what you’ve got to say about all these fun questions.

Stay classy,

xoxo Jess

Fashion Haul: Forever21 and Plato’s Closet

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I’m bored of all my clothes!

I’ve been trying to pare down my closet and have been giving bag after bag full of hand-me-downs to my neighbor in a desperate attempt to simplify my closet and rid myself of anything that isn’t flattering or something that I enjoy or is useful. I had an overflowing closet with things that I felt would be impossible to part with. Like, t-shirts from college. A college I didn’t even like. I don’t even like t-shirts. WHAT? I don’t even know what I was doing.

Anyway, my closet is a lot smaller now, but still not as refined as I’d like it to be. Since I got rid of some stuff that was just…not right…I treated myself with more clothes. Somehow the clothes math adds up.

I’m on a mission to get rid of stuff and add stuff until I have an almost entirely new wardrobe that is functional and versatile. Anyway…

Wanna see what I bought? 😀

Plato’s Closet Finds:

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L.A. Hearts Faux leather skirt. I thought, will I really wear this? But it’s black and it’s a-line. So, yeah I think I will. Black is so easy to pair with anything and having the leather will add an edge to my look that I always try for and don’t really have. I think I’ll still be able to look really feminine while also feeling really badass.

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Forever21 – Lately I’ve been trying to make my look a little more vintage/rockabilly and 1940’s styled. I’ve done bumper bangs a few times and victory rolls. I’ll post some pictures of that in a later post. Anyway, I think this will quickly become a staple in my wardrobe with that style in mind. I’m excited to find a cute pair of wooden wedges to wear with this.

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This dress is made by a brand called Whispers. I’ve never heard of it and couldn’t find anything about it online. I really just want to start wearing dresses and skirts more often and this was really flattering and a little different than the dresses I already own. I’m looking for items that are casual enough to wear daily at work but nicer than just wearing jeans and a cardigan. Not that I don’t love some good jeans. I just don’t like not having anything besides that to wear.

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Up close you can see the cute owl print.

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I only picked this dress up because Chelsea told me too. I’m really glad I did because this dress is cuuuute. I love the bottom of it and that’s what really did it for me. The sequins look so weird without the overlay so I’m glad it is the way it is. It looked perfect with a belt thrown on over the top. This isn’t normally the silhouette I would wear, but I’m trying to get out of the box I’ve put myself in. I think I’ll wear this to some holiday events. It’s from another brand I’ve never heard of called Hem & Thread

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Good ol’ exhilaration from Target. Fits like a glove. The lace is heavy and I really like that. The lining is soft and stretches well which is great for my top half. It lays really nicely and I think this could easily become a weekly favorite.

Forever21 Finds:

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This SWEATER! I’m too excited! The possibilities are endless. I can wear it with floral, which I will. With any color, skirts, jeans, tucked in, oh my gosh. I’ll probably do a post of outfits with just this sweater. Much excite.

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I was wearing these today and didn’t want to take them off to take a picture. These were the first thing I put on after my big purchase. I’ve already worn them twice. Forever21 is the only place I buy my leggings now. They fit me better than any other brand. These are a little heavier than their basic leggings which is perfect because it just snowed here.

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excuse the wrinkles and the lint :/

All of the cashiers told me this dress would be life changing. It totally is. I searched everywhere for a SIMPLE black dress. I could only find really revealing ones for the longest time. But this one is life changing. I needed something I could wear a million different ways and potentially multiple times a week and this is it.

Once I clean out my closet even more, I’ll probably try and cycle through my entire wardrobe in about 2 weeks tops. One load of laundry per week, half of my clothes in each load and I’ll just rotate. This is of course just an idea. I’ll be sure to update later on how that plan goes.

Overall I’m very please with all of my purchases. Make sure to subscribe to get my posts in your email so you don’t miss any of my posts where you see these pieces as outfits.

Stay classy,

xoxo Jess

31 Day Blog Challenge: Day 8

Whew! I can’t believe I wrote every day for an entire week and I’m about to do it 3 more times. You guys, I NEVER do that. Correction, I’ve never DONE it, but now I am.

Since my most recent difficult bout with depression I have had the toughest time motivating myself to do much of anything. So, successfully completing a full week of the 31 Day Blog Challenge is quite an accomplishment.

Here is the photo for the challenge. Please feel free to link up with me and join in on the challenge.

Credit to fabulousfindsbytiffany.com found via optimisticmommy.com
Credit to fabulousfindsbytiffany.com found via optimisticmommy.com

There you have it. Day 8 is Biggest Pet Peeve.

Oh man…I don’t even know.

I guess I would have to say that at the moment my biggest pet peeve is every bad customer. I work at a dry cleaner so I don’t get the typical retail comments. But by customers still act like annoying customers. They just say stupid, stupid things. And are so rude. Ugh. Here is a list of my least favorite “customer-isms”

  1. “If it doesn’t scan, that means it’s free right?”
    No. You know that I’d literally be committing a crime if I just gave you your crap for free right? Go away.
  2. “Would it help if I looked too?”
    Do you know how we’ve organized all of these thousands of shirts? Then, no. No it wouldn’t help if you looked too.
  3. “That shirt right there looks like mine.”
    Oh, that plain blue shirt next to this other plain blue shirt and that entire order of 4 plain blue shirts looks like your plain blue shirt? Do you know how many men wear plain blue button up shirts in the exact same shade? So many that no one would be able to pick their own plain blue shirt out from a line up or other plain blue shirts.
  4. “I just called to see if my stuff is done. I know my ticket says they’ll be done at 6:00pm but I just wondered…”
    So, you thought that calling at noon would be a good time to check on your order that’s due in 6 hours? And then you get upset at me for not having it? I’m sorry I did not anticipate you needing your blazer 6 hours before the time it is due even though I asked you “Do you need this sooner than 6:00pm on ______day?”
  5. Do you need a copy of your receipt?
    “No thanks.”
    *cancels printing receipt*
    “Actually, is it too late? I would like a copy.”
    *sigh* No, it’s not too late. Let me retype this information so I can print a second copy of this piece of paper that you’re going to throw on the floor of your car.

Well, that’s about enough pet peeves for today. What are some of your biggest pet peeves?


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31 Day Blog Challenge: Day 6

I’m so glad you’re here today! Today I will be making a new friend. I’m going to coffee with someone I’ve never met in real life! eek. Making friends is weird and hard. But I’m proud of myself for making the plans. Now hopefully I don’t act like a weirdo and scare her away.

That wasn’t really a very good intro to today’s 31 Day Challenge post so I’ll just come right out and say it:

Your Last Random Act of Kindness.

I took my dog for a walk today and she…went…at the park. But so had another dog.

And…

I…

picked it up.

And I HATE picking up after my dog. I mean, not that anyone likes it but still. I really hate it. And I actually picked up after someone else’s dog.

Here’s a picture from our walk. You know, before she ahem….

Happy trails, kids.

-xoxo Jess


 

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